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Win Back Ex Boyfriend Girlfriend Husbands Wives - It's Not Too Late

By: Mark Myers

Is this what you really want? You can win back ex husbands, wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, whatever it is you lost. You just need a lesson in human nature. You can stack the deck in your favor, if you know what to say and do.
First let's discuss your relationship. If your relationship together was for less than 6 months, they might not be intered in a further relationship. Let it go, and find someone else. If your history together was longer, you can win back an ex with a well defined plan of action.
Understand this, your ex does not want to be alone. People are pack animals, and nature dictates they find a mate. It is not too late if they have invested time and emotion with you. Life is full of paradoxes, and here is a big one. If you want to win back an ex, you have to pretend you do not want them.
What I mean is this, call your ex and tell them you agree with the break up and it was a good idea. Then do not elaborate, do not explain, do not go further, and whatever you do, do not tell them you want to be friends. They must believe it is totally over in your eyes.
After you do this, make no contact for three to four weeks. No email, comments on MySpace, texting, asking their friends about them,nothing. Research has shown that loneliness peaks at about three weeks. This is when they are the most vulnerable. If your ex contacts you in the three weeks of silence, great. But you must initiate contact for three or four weeks, unless you made a fool of yourself at the beginning, then give it a couple extra weeks.
Now you can call, once. Invite them for a short meeting, like lunch or a cup of coffee. Keep it innocent with a 30 minute time limit. No dinner, movie, party, etc. When you meet keep it light. You need to act like it is a first date, because it is. With your history together, you know how to make your ex laugh, use that. Since they haven't seen you, they have forgotten most of your faults and only remember the fun you had together.
Use this and bring up only pleasant memories. This is important. Talk like your ex. Use the same words, speed and tone that they do. Do they use picture words, sound words, or feeling words? (Like I see (picture) what you're saying. I hear (sound) what you're saying. What your saying feels good (feeling).) Use these same kinds of words back to them in the same pitch, tone, and tempo that they do.
Pretend you are a mirror to their body language. If they have their arms crossed, cross yours. If they lean to one side, do the same. Be a little subtle and don't make it obvious, and they will never catch on. Breath at the same rate that they do. Once you do this for a couple of minutes, you move and see if they do too. Touch your elbow, and see if they touch theirs. If they do, you have built enough rapport to clinch them back into your life.
Take it slow and learn more about human nature, you only have three weeks to learn everything you need to know. Develop a plan and learn all the secret psychological tricks of the trade.

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